SJ, I don't want you to leave us, but as an additional source of help, how about joining the Class of June 2014?
Class of May would be better Toots LOL
I think you're right Jim - you need to post more (that goes for you too Babs).
SR works best when you really become part of this community - post daily, post when you're in trouble, before it's too late.
You'll get out of your recovery what you put into it. If you keep going back to drinking, both of you guys need to face the possibility you're not doing enough?
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