Happy Birthday!!!!!
Now, I don't know about your AH, but mine liked to be a jerk by intentionally ignoring my bday or by getting me a gift that would provoke sadness in me ( like your cake). Then I would feel lousy and then he'd keep trying to look nice to outsiders while making my day h3ll until I would get upset finally. Then he'd act as though I were to blame all while provoking a fight.
My last birthday in his presence was one if the worst days of my life. He finished it off by strangling me, then telling the children I had hit him.
A sign it was beyond high time to get out of my marriage.
If you are going to have a good weekend, you may need to do something for yourself!