:dayLiz...perhaps you could take the bull by the horns....and be honest with him about how you feel---rather than go along to get along and then resenting the hel* out of it. I'm sure that you could have found at least one person from your alanon group or the tennis crowd or the homeschooling crowd with which to celebrate your birthday. (the truth will set you free).
dandylion
P.S. Happy Birthday