Healing starts when you begin to see yourself as a person. When you are no longer listening to others describe you. When you begin to love yourself as a person. We all have flaws and that is what makes us special. Sometimes though we need to let go of the flaws that others foisted on us.
Think about that for awhile. I can't watch you trying to change yourself more and more till you think you are perfect. I tried that, it didnt work. There was still something else wrong with me, or at least I was told that.
You know that song----- I love you just the way you are.