Originally Posted by
Soberella66 
I know how to stop, but I don't know how to STAY stopped.
Im curious what others did to stay vigilant in recovery on their own?
"Vigilance" and "steps" and "counting" and "triggers" and "programs" and "processes" and "groups" are for other methods.
Self-help abstinence is not a process, it is a one-time decision. As it is not a process, there is nothing to vigil over. You are simply a person who does not drink.
To suggest that "vigilance" is required suggest that you see recovery as a spiritual quest that requires some ritual or practice.
Practitioners of AVRT and RR - and perhaps other disciplines - simply arrive at the decision that acting on the impulse to drink is as immoral as assault or robbery.
When you walk past a bank, do you require "vigilance" to keep from going inside and trying to take all the money?
Of course not. You are a responsible adult who knows right from wrong.
Make it the same with alcohol and you will require no fancy words or thoughts to be abstinent.