from my own experience... I was in an abusive marriage.
I saw how happy and content my best friend was, she was engaged to be married.. they of course had issues, we all do, but they went to counseling and worked on it.
I was not able to do that in my marriage.
So yes, the outside world confirmed to me that I was not in a happy or even a good relationship.
Sometimes God has a way of shaking us up.. making us face reality in a gentle way.
You've just experienced "normal". Feels pretty good, doesn't it?
Got some thinking to do girl...