I'm just saying: Say what you mean;mean what you say;but, DON"T say it mean.....and don't let the kids suffer from being in the middle
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Very wise words!
If you say no to something your mom wants 10 times but on the 11th you say yes, what are you teaching her?
What do you mean by checking out of a relationship with your mom for a few months? If you mean "no contact", honestly this seems like it would be kind of sad for your kids. Do they enjoy their time with her? They can have it and so can she but on YOUR terms, not hers. I understand it will be very hard to stick to your terms - but you've accomplished so much and you can do this too.
Just my opinion, good luck to you and congratulations on living on your own.