Originally Posted by
lizatola 
I was having a conversation with someone yesterday and we were talking about intense topics and I immediately went into defense mode. It's like an automatic thing. I am so quick to defend myself and point out my side of something, I cut people off even to do so. I'm assuming this is from years of dealing with our marital dysfunction....
sooooo me! I do this, especially with my A, all the time...I'm such a reactor! I'm glad I recognize it and trying to reign it in. I also agree that we are kinda "hooked" on the "crazy"....but our A's are one with the real problem, right? We gotta move out of victimville, ASAP!