Even though I am adamantly against cheating and have voiced that for years, the first thing my XAH accused me of is that I am cheating on him. In his own crazy head, he cannot understand why I would not want to be married to an egotistical, narcissistic, alcoholic...hmmm....
Just do what you need to do for your own recovery. You deserve to have the best quality of life you can for you and for your kiddos.