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Old 05-01-2014, 10:20 AM
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Originally Posted by unsureoffuture View Post
I dont think you should alter YOUR recovery to suit HIM. His insecurities are HIS problem. A healthy relationship cannot exist without trust and it honestly sounds very controlling.This would be a big red flag for me. Is he controlling about other ares of your life? Does he check up on who you call, talk to, see on a regular basis? I mean honestly, if you are going to cheat you are going to cheat. You could find him in the grocery store, shopping mall, park, neighborhood etc. I am not sure how cheating through Al-anon comes about. You cant stay locked in a bubble. You have to be able to live your life as you see fit.
Yes, I do honestly see the red flags. I've never been unfaithful to him. He really is abusive in that form. This much is true. We've struggled a lot in counseling about this.
I guess maybe at this point, my first step in recovery would be to make my meetings. Just go. Just do it and if he has a problem, then...well I'll deal with that part later.
So meetings here are every Monday over the noon hour. I'm just going to go.
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