You have to allow yourself compete and total permission to FEEL IT.
Sitting with pain and gut wretching discomfort, allowing it to come up and through you, and immersing yourself in it, is the only way.
I used to have to drink over my emotional pain. I thought by stuffing it down, it would somehow dissipate and just go away. Turns out, it festers.
And becomes more and more necrotic until it DEMANDS TO BE NOTICED.
Manifesting in a myriad of disfunction and phobias.
Feel your feelings. Weep for your beloved pet. Sob. Pound your fists and scream into a pillow. Get it out. Snot bubbles and all. For as long as it takes.
I promise, you won't stay stuck in the pain.
If you give yourself the chance to truly embrace it.
XO AO