I cry and take care of myself however I can, no matter how seemingly trivial, take a shower, sweep the floor, make a sandwich, pay a bill, take a nap, go for a walk, call a friend, just keep breathing. The feelings of grief, pain, and loss need to be experienced in order to heal just like the physical pain after surgery. Loss is a part of life, it helps us to appreciate the joy that we experience.
It's hard but I know that drinking will inhibit the healing process of my grieving and draw it out endlessly and that is the last thing I want.