In an alcoholic relationship, both sides have a fair amount of cleaning up to do. My ex and I temporarily separated. I focused on myself and he...focused on the bottle. So our separation has now become permanent. I am attending Alanon and therapy and building a happy, safe, healthy home for myself and my sons. That is my success story. Like LaTeeDa said, limiting your definition of success to one outcome means seeing everything else as failure, and that simply isn't so. Hanging the responsibility for your happiness on someone else is pretty much a recipe for disappointment.