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Old 04-30-2014, 07:01 PM
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Topspin, thanks for your mention, and your kindness. I like that you mentioned Terminally Unique, I owe him deeply too.

You mentioned ambivalence, and this is important. I think we need to recognize that ambivalence is at the root of addiction, we should stop drinking but we don't. If there were no ambivalence, there would be no problem - free consumption of alcohol with no concern woohoooo! While there may have been a time like that, it has long since passed, but that is where our addiction has us located, stuck with that long ago memory of euphoria instead of the soul sickness that is the present reality.

AVRT takes a solid accurate aim at the ambivalence, one of the reasons why it fit for me. It provides a way of dealing with that ambivalence by making that desire to drink 'ego alien', as TU used to say. Once this is understood, we have already made great progress in getting all aspects of us in agreement. If we continue to be in conflict over whether to quit or not, things cannot go well.

I posted this link yesterday on the topic of changing our thinking, and I think it fits well for this topic too. Simple Ways to Change the Way You Think. We are complex critters, and our decisions are often challenges to implement, and we get stuck. The article is about eliminating ambivalence around a desired or necessary action. Once that is done, things can go smoothly, and we succeed.

I believe in your ability to sort this out, Topspin. I know you can do this, you can get rid of this ambivalence, and move confidently and powerfully forward with your bad self. Onward!
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