Gabriel, you deserve so much better than this and I think your word expresses your feelings very clearly. The thing is, he may not listen, even to the written word.
Whether he does or not, your feelings are valid and you have the right to choose what is okay in your life and what is not. You have a child to consider and you are right when you say that the child learns from their environment. You don't want to raise an abuser or someone who allows anyone to abuse them.
I know this is hard and I hope you find a way to distance yourself from this kind of behaviour. It's sad to wake up cringing at what the day might bring or to worry how someone will react to everything you say or do.
And as for the cooking, let him do his own and cook what you enjoy yourself. If he doesn't appreciate what you prepare, then maybe it's time he prepared his own dinner....this is coming from a woman who doesn't like to cook and danged if I'd cook for any man who was less than grateful, lol.
I hope you find your peace and happiness, with or without him in your life.
Hugs