From the
Lifering Canada meeting closing statement:
"You don't have to change everything in your life... just almost everything.
Old habits, behaviors and associations will continue to bring trouble unless you
let them go. The more you try to hold onto the “old way,” the harder your
recovery will be...."
Ain't that the truth. A few months ago I first heard that at one of my groups (they like reading the Canadian closing statement, even though were Californian), and I sort of half-dismissed it, saying to myself, "yeah, well, I didn't really have to change lots of stuff, I just had to stop drinking and using - sounds like an overstatement, one of those things they say at recovery groups."
Well I'll be damned if I'm finding out for real that it's absolutely true. My relationship is in a make-or-break phase, and I think it's because I'm forcing it to change, because *I'm* changing. I can't go back. This is good, but it's painful.
So those of you still in your first few days / weeks of recovery - sit tight - the real hard work is likely yet to come.
-DrS