I agree with the others. Don't they call that something...dry drunk?
It takes a lot more to stop the alcoholic behavior than putting the bottle down. Sometimes, they never get it. And the blame game is the worst. I think they do it because they secretly know it's their fault, and they want to make themselves feel bigger while making someone else feel smaller. And because there is a certain point in time where the only ones they can delude is themselves.
I personally am mad at the ABF right now for the stupid thing that he did the other day because he gets the easy way out. So while I struggle, it's over for him, but as usual, I get to pick up the pieces.
So dependable in their undependability.
Sorry if that is not a word, but you know what I mean.