Originally Posted by
catlovermi 
(speaking generically here, not specifically to OP)
I think when you respect YOURSELF, you behave respectfully towards any other person. This is not to say subserviant, but rather with the absence of abusive or manipulative behavior.
CLMI
This is what I was saying...and I think it gets us back to what is the real question here?
I think when we focus on the drinker, we get side-tracked.
There's only one question for me...and it's not "do I respect the alcoholic"...the question is:
Do I respect myself?
Then everything else falls into place.
So I'm going to turn it around.
Do you respect yourself, Liz?
If not, do you remember a time when you did, and can you get back to that place?