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Old 04-24-2014, 05:42 AM
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HopefulinFLA
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Originally Posted by DoubleBarrel View Post
I think it's hard to respect someone who doesn't show themselves respect, is self loathing and self destructive.

But I do feel compassion for them.
I second what DoubleBarrel said.

My AH is currently passed out on the couch after his binge last night.(didn't come home til after midnight) The living room wreaks of second hand vodka. He'll be blowing off a couple of customers today, he's going to screw up this business he's worked so hard to build and is so proud of. This happens once or twice a week now. He doesn't show much in the way of concern for my feelings anymore. Doesn't care that he leaves me with the brunt of household chores and responsibilities. I feel like a single woman most of the time because he's either out on a binge, or spending 2-3 days on the couch recovering from one. I'm "lucky" if we have one good day a week together anymore.

So ya, respect is a pretty difficult thing right now. Don't know if it will ever come back because I don't feel confident that he will do what's necessary to earn it back.

Mostly I just feel disgust and pity.
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