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Old 04-17-2014, 05:48 AM
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embraced2000
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Location: southern indiana
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when my XAH got sober, I did not have a clue how to interact with him. I did not know him sober.

I felt threatened by his new sense of self....he appeared to be the man I always knew he could be. as sick as this next statement will sound, it was very true......I was afraid that if he became well, that he would not want me anymore. I was very threatened by that.

I knew how to react to the chaos, but not to the calmness.

unfortunately, he did not stay sober, and then I was back in my comfort zone of hell. sick, I know....but it was how things happened. can't change how it was then, but I can change the "now".


al-anon and this forum were my tools for survival and healing.
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