Originally Posted by
FeelingGreat 
At one point he must have met some of your psychological needs, and most people can't just turn off an attachment even if it seems logical to forget him. As time goes by and the attachment part recedes your logical part will take over and you'll get much more realistic about him.
Bingo!! I realized the hard way that while I'm accusing him of using me, lying to me, ect., I'm no better then him. I used him and lied to him just as much, just to make my self feel better. To sooth my own ego. He was the mirror I needed to take a good look at myself, and I didn't feel good at first. When I first started posting on here all the veterans would say "be kind and loving to yourself" and would think....ok, thanks, but how? It not an easy road to travel but worth it!
