Went back to lawyer today. After he explained to me that AH took 68K from our retirement account I had no problem writing a retainer check. Yeah, I think I was getting the Hoover treatment. AH took DD to a relatives cottage for a few days. He has been really spoiling her lately. I'm sure he is getting drunk every night. I am just so mad. One reason I really want to keep the house is I won't be able to buy one after Div unless I can pay cash. No job = no loan. I can't believe he didn't think I would find out about this. Uugh!