My therapist said, 'what if he is injured and then depended on you for care. It would force him to change.' That was when I really started working on leaving. I have Lupus. Been very sick for 10 years. He has always treated me with anger and resentment for being such an inconvenience. This is really the only friend I have. I have been thinking of moving back to my home state where I have family. I am my friends only friend also. I think she is as fearful as I am. The only time I cry is when I think of all the other people, my kids, that he is hurting. It is so unfair.