Originally Posted by Thinking

I couldn't afford to go back to court either. So I just decided what was a reasonable alternative (totally different time of day so it didn't impact on work). Emailed him with the details of the alternative and the reasons for the change, i.e. because it was messing up my job and future employment chances. The difficult part was working out a reasonable alternative because I didn't want him to see her at all. So I got a sensible friend to look at my plans with me. I didn't give him a choice because he would have just found a way to make life difficult.