Originally Posted by
lizatola 
He told me that he's tried everything a woman wants so that she(meaning me) will have sex with him.
My sister is having a similar problem with her DH (his issue isn't addiction though). She's been through enough therapy that she can easily identify "I need A, B and C if you want to have sex. If you do D or E it is absolutely not going to happen." He still doesn't get that she means what she says and that somehow continuing D and E or mixing it with A or throwing in F and G will eventually get him what he wants. It's like they're speaking different languages.