I filed a month ago and presented rAH with the papers. Not sure what is going on with him, but I think he may be in denial. It is not easy. My heart breaks some days when I think about the dream, but even a year without the alcohol he is just not willing to do the work and I am tired of being 2nd, 3rd, last (really anything but 1st in his life). I am tired of waiting around for him to get his crap together (which appears will never happen) to live my life. It used to be because he drank, now it is because he doesn't that we don't do anything.
We have been married 18 years and fortunately (depending on how you view it) we don't have children. If we didn't own a house together (joint property) I would have been gone years ago.
(((Hugs))) So sorry you have to go through this.
Post here as much as you need to. It really does help.