The thought of what you wrote made me all misty eyed too..I can't imagine and hate like heck you have to.
While the truth is ugly I don't believe it is your responsibility to make sure your wife sees her child. Maybe let her know what her child has said and leave the responsibility to her? I don't know what the right answer is. You could take pictures you have and put them in an album that can be easily had by your little one so she can look anytime she wants..even a bedside pic? Just thoughts.
Praying for you and your family to be well.