I just reread your post and this jumped out at me:
Originally Posted by
Jaded623 
I was advised by someone I used to be close with, that I needed to get a sponsor ASAP and he also suggested who I should ask.
I'm so sorry you had a bad experience. You may find you do better if you take your time and make your own choice. Also, if you have the Alanon books One Day at a Time, or Courage to Change you might want to peruse the index for readings to help guide you. Courage to Change has some good readings on "feelings".
Either way, whether you decide on another sponsor or not I hope you give the program more time. It's been a great help to both my daughter and me. Having said that, our home group doesn't promote sponsorship, so neither of us have ever had one. Keep us posted.