Good comments regarding "easy prey" and "common interests". I'm accused of overthinking things as a major fault; it was an essential tool but now, its a millstone. Being too involved means you're not allowing that person to grow. When I thought I was building social skills, I was perceived as weak. Having an intelligent contribution is far easier when its a common interest. I think good communication is a worthy goal, but if you need to be understood its usually immaturity.
Being understood requires knowing someone for many, many years. There's no condensed version. Socially I've always disagreed with average observations because I over-think. That's me! I wish everyone the best but, don't get me started on my opinions.
