Preparing to detach can be stressful ReaderBaby (writer extraordinaire),
I was reading about emotional abuse just recently and realized my old boss's behaviors were on this power wheel. Well, well, well. No wonder the guy totally triggered me. But I took pains to leave on good terms because I am still in the same work place though no longer work in his dept.
You are almost there. HALT works for everyone. Be patient with yourself. Make a fair cut off between being a good employee and being perfectionistic. Maybe some issues you just need to prepare a brief on this is where you needed to leave the situation and let them go so you can focus on smaller issues and take time to wrap up and tie as many bows without going in Codie double-knotting. Hugs. Soon you will be free.