Old 03-23-2014, 09:56 AM
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Originally Posted by carmen220 View Post
Thanks again for allowing me to vent

He and I haven't talked for 2 days. I can't help but wonder if he thinks that I am the one who should be sorry, since I quickly said "I have to go" and then hung up (with him still talking). Of course I did that because he was so hurtful and was indifferent toward my feelings. A part of me wonders, maybe the alcohol has affected his brain so much that he wonders himself why he said it; maybe he's embarrassed or feels bad for having said it.

In the past, he would try to make up for misbehavior, but what he said feels unforgivable to me. How do I get past that? I wonder if most other people would feel that what he said was unforgiveable.
You don't. Something eventually has to make you realize that he is an unrecovered abusive alcoholic who has made no attempts to change WHATSOEVER.

And you keep asking us, and we keep telling you, and then you just keep HOPING that reality will magically change to suit your wishes.

This is who he is. Move on already. Or you will become even sicker than he is. Hes making you crazy.
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