Hi mygirl. I know when I first got sober I was pretty charged, and I noticed a lot of other people at the facility I was at seemed to be going through a similar phases. Everything was magnified. Coming home from rehab and just being in the airport I thought my head might explode.
Alcohol is a major depressant and our nervous systems go haywire for a while.
I am not advocating that your husband isn't driving you crazy, it sounds like he is a handful. But for right now, you don't need to do anything …which is really hard for us alcoholics. I know it is frustrating as all get out to be told to focus on yourself when an annoying spouse is buzzing around us, but the more time you get under your belt the clearer your path will be. Chances are he has been this annoying all along, it is just that you are noticing this now.
Spousal stress isn't easy even without alcoholism, it is way more complex when that element is involved. Obviously if you are in any danger then leaving is paramount. But if you need to stay the course for a bit just look at him as a reflection of where you don't want to be.