nice username
thanks for the thread, I have similar enabling issues, and I like the phrase about 'can't abandon a grown man'. my soon to be ex H is deep in the phase of looking for another woman to latch onto. He's got a specific woman in mind (he doesn't know I know, the evil ability to facebook stalk), and I bounce between hoping it works and feeling for her. But as his bartender, she must know his history and actually is in a way better position/lifestyle than I ever was to be a good match for him.