update/vent
It's been a while since I've posted here. I'm still at my dad's, and almost done moving out of the apartment. I pretty much just have big things left, and I'll get those soon with my dad. I went there Thursday to shampoo the carpet, and load up the car. My exABF was really nice. Ordered my favorite pizza, and wanted me to stay. I didn't, but felt sad leaving and part of me wanted to stay. Fast forward to today, Saturday.
I received a text @ 10:30am while at work. exABF's daughter went to the neighbor's looking for her friend (who wasn't home) but told her mom that her dad was acting weird, and asked her to call me to come get her. exABF showed up soon after to retrieve his child, and was noticeably drunk. She didn't want to go with him, started crying and begged the girl to call me.
I called her stepdad, who said he had just dropped her off not too much earlier, and he went to pick her up. It was a big dramatic thing with my exABF trying to act like he was fine, and then taking his daughter to the neighbors to apologise. He had the balls to tell her that he had fallen asleep, and his daughter was overreacting. The poor thing didn't know what to say, so she just kept asking to play with her friend, when was she going to be home etc...
While they were there, her stepdad searched the house and found 2 empty vodka bottles, and one open. My exABF said he had some drinks at a friend's house last night, and didn't want to drive, and then admitted that he went to the liquor store at 8:00am.
I clearly made the right decision in leaving, but I can't help but feel sorry for his kid. Like I let her down. Now there's no buffer there. Thank God for the neighbor, but the lease is up at the end of the month, and then what?
I called her stepdad on my way home from work, and he said she was so excited to see her dad today. She got up early, got dressed and kept asking him to call him so she could get there early. I'm going crazy here! How can he do this to her? How is this okay? He needs to be stopped! Why hasn't he gotten a DUI yet?
If you're going to say something about his daughter's mom stepping in, she's no better. She took her out of school over Christmas break, and moved her in with a new guy, and into a new school. 6 weeks later, the new guy kicked her out, and she's back at her old school. She's been staying with her stepdad every night, and he's getting her to school, but she stayed with her mom once last week, and missed school the next day. Daughter's stepdad told me he found a meth pipe next to her mom's jeans on the bathroom floor. Her story? It wasn't hers....if it wasn't hers, why did she have it? If I found a meth pipe, I'm pretty sure the last thing I would do would be to put it in my pocket. And if it's someone's she knows, why is she hanging around people like that??????
This poor kid....I want to be there for her, but I want to be as far away from her dad as I possibly can. And I want to protect her.