I am so sorry. I have heard the medicine excuse also. How can they all be so much alike?! The denials are infuriating. I totally understand the feeling like a fool - it's an awful feeling, knowing you should have listened to your gut. But we are too hard on ourselves...
I will be bankrupt from my separation as well...but it's still worth it to have my sanity back. To see a glimmer of happiness and not live with such dysfunction. I'd rather be poor than miserable.