OH kdjom---I think most couples are completely unaware of how difficult the early recovery period is. I see, all the time, on the threads that it was just assumed that everything would be o.k. "if they just stopped drinking". Recovery is very hard on everyone in the family. The family needs as much help as the recovering alcoholic does.
Typically, the alcoholic has a hard time just making it from day to day after their main coping tool has been taken away (alcohol).
Now would be a good time to consider alanon--if you haven't already. You could use the support of others who have walked in your shoes---and understand what you are going through.
You will come through this. I assure you...you are much stronger than you think you are!!!
dandylion