Originally Posted by
Harpoon 
What does this sound like? Am I dependent on alcohol, or an alcoholic? Why cant I say enough is enough?
I kept looking at my drinking to find a definition of what kind of drinker I was. When I tried to quit I learned what kind of drinker I was...the addicted kind.
I wouldn't get lost in the definition. Alcohol is a problem or you wouldn't be quitting. You want to quit and you can't. That's a problem too.
Physical dependance can be addressed with detox. Staying quit takes recovery. Recovery from alcoholism is addressed in the AA Big Book, available online. Why don't you read it and see what rings true for you?