Do whatever you have to do. Exchanging the girls at the police station is better than him coming to your home. Even something as vile as he is wouldn't attack you at the police station. I too hope the DV folks can do for you what your attorney can't or won't.
I wish I knew what to say to make this better for you. As I said before, this thing has been totally bizarre from the get-go. I wish I could give you a huge HUG!