Hmmm...when I went to an attorney, before I even hired him, he went and printed off charges my husband had in case he had to tie that and use it in the divorce. It does not sound like you have a very good attorney. This is major for your children, he is a threat to their safety.
I am so sorry. Tight Hugs. Don't hide this from people, no one can blame you, you did nothing wrong.
God Bless!