I am a new member, I have an AS living at home 21. When reading what happened to you reminded me of my divorce in n'94. Same thing happened. Back and forth to court. Mediation, Psch eval. I could NOT get sole custody. He drove the kids' w/out a license, w/out insurance. He drove them w/intoxicated. Way to much stuff, and I shouldn't be thinking of that, cuz it was 20 yrs ago. But I feel for children that witness this crazy stuff, and I think a lot has to do with my now adult sons having addictions.