Originally Posted by
Ixi 
When I've been supportive through his recovery, he's always told me he's glad I'm in his corner, but I'm starting to see that being in HIS corner means being in the opposite of MY corner.
I think you hit the jackpot with that statement. Nicely put!
The important thing is that you reached that point by yourself, in your own way, on your own time. It's no different than the alcoholic deciding for himself when it's time to quit. We codies have to decide on our own when it's time to give up the alcoholic. And when we know, we know. It's called acceptance. The peace that comes with the acceptance is a gift in itself. You will find your peace, too. Stay strong and keep doing what you're doing. Congratulations on caring for yourself!