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the restraining order died months ago. It's one of the things making me anxious. At one point, he followed me. Taking my daughter to dance class or eating at Applebees with a friend could always turn into disaster. I guess I fear accepting communication because I don't want to go through that again.
Speaking as an alcoholic our amends are only to be made if they won't hurt someone else. In my opinion amends are to bring some kind of comfort to the hurt person or right a wrong, not cause them more distress or made just to make ourselves feel better.
Quite frankly I think he should know better than to communicate with you because of your history. He must know that is going to cause you some distress. This is just my opinion though and I could be totally off base.