I made a list like this just recently myself.
It's amazing to me that all these "won't miss" items would all be gone in one felt swoop if my xabf would just stop drinking.
Then, he'd be the perfect person for me.
That's the part that sucks. A substance is changing the potential of who someone could really be...and I think we see that in them...and we have hope and faith and more hope that they will realize it and do what they need to in order to get better.
But, they don't.
And, we are stuck with a list of all these unacceptable behaviors that we've put up with for so long. And, they don't balance out against the good stuff.
I imagine this as putting the list of all the good things on one side of a scale and a big bottle of booze on the other side. I could add more good stuff to the other side, but it won't matter. That bottle of booze is as heavy as it can be...nothing's going to make the good stuff outweigh it. It's a heck of a visual for me.
So sorry you're going through this, but glad to see you're making some progress sorting it out.
