Welcome to SR, lvgdgrl.
A little shocked to go back and see so much of my own stuff in this older thread.
As far as YOU and Hubby . . . You may know that ALL we work on this side is YOU/US.
After all, AA-Hubby and/or AA-Mrs. Hammer are not here. (And the background choir of angels sing Thank God.
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And for YOU and ME -- the side that works on US is Alanon. You know about Alanon? Would be might fine/decent of YOUR Mr. AA-Hubby to make sure you had an open time or two a week to get some.
We are rather blessed with a LOT of good Alanon in Texas. You familiar with Where, and When to find it?