wow Jmartin! I said it once, i'll say it again... our paths are so similar! I feel your pain brother... I am also on the edge of marital termination. I have asked for a voluntary trial separation, pretty much as the last step before divorce. But, of course, my AW thinks SHE should stay in the house with our teenage son, and I should leave. Really? She's the one with a frequent flier detox card, not me. So, I'm left with little choice- outside of rehab stays if I want her out of the house I'm going to have to force it legally. really sucks.
I wish I could offer you solace... just know I'm pulling for ya