THAT is the problem. Even when he was hardcore using he acted pretty normal. At least around me. The money was disappearing fast though.. He works 4am to noon right now.. so he comes home and sleeps.. then gets up and eats dinner hits his Monday and Thursday meetings and comes home watches a show and back to bed.. He is crabby sometimes ESP if I am suspicious and he gets crabby about money. He is used to having a lot at all times.. I've been getting receipts and giving him a little cash at a time.. OR filling up the gas tanks, buying his cigs, and packing his lunch. He doesn't like to have no money on him. I took all the bank cards etc.. but sometimes he has to take mine to get gas if I didn't get out. I HATE BEING MONEY WARDEN. he does go to work etc.. but I just do not want him using AT ALL esp in my home or around my babies. I'M over being lied to ... I'd rather die alone than with a pathological lier