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He has also used money as a weapon for punishment (lessening amounts given depending on his latest fit, or outright saying that he will not contribute if I don't want to have children with him, etc.)
He is controlling in other ways so I feel this could be part of it, I don't know.
Hi, this is financial abuse and is probably part of his controlling pattern. I suggest you do some research online about types of domestic abuse and see if any of it sounds familiar to you. The more you learn the more power you'll have. You could also call a domestic violence help-line. It doesn't have to be physical, and they will be able to point you to further resources.
Then if you want to talk it over with your husband you will know your rights.