we don't get to pick our Family of Origin, but we can certainly as adults make healthy choices about who we allow into our lives and how close into our lives they are allowed to get.
sadly, right now, your family has circled the wagons to keep out anyone who DARES to try and shed any light on the elephants and alligators in the living room. Trust No One. Tell No One. Admit Nothing.
to them your offers to go to counseling are an insult. you can't fix them, or change their minds. for now, distance is probably the best approach for everybody....a cooling off period. which is hopefully shorter than the half life of Uranium 238!
it's sad, but i have nothing to do with any of my remaining family members. well one cousin calls sometimes...but that's it. but that same cousin did NOT call to tell me that my uncle had died....not until about 3 months later. i STILL don't get my family.
