This is it, I've finally found something that's started to answer my questions and really open my eyes to the truth of things. AA does a good job of dealing with resentment, but for some people that way of thinking just doesn't make sense. I always knew that I had a lot of resentment, but I didn't understand what it meant to hand it over to a higher power, that concept was completely meaningless to me. The work of Byron Katie is kind of like a fourth and fifth step, but it's a different way to look at it, and it makes much more sense to me.
Basically you take a resentment, and then turn it around at yourself to see if it is true for yourself.
For example, I felt that my friends judged me and did not respect who I was and it made me angry. Why do their words and actions effect me so strongly? Is it because I feel what they say is true? Maybe I don't respect myself, maybe I judge myself and do not accept who I am...
Doing this honestly can be shocking, and once you realize that all resentment is internal, you can see it for what it is and let it go.
About The Work :: The Work of Byron Katie
If you have resentments but feel that AA isn't the right angle to approach it, try this instead.