My man is out 37 days(he didn't go to rehab), so I really get what you say the first days after one month he was super agitated And felt so much anxiety I don't think he could make it without AA, I just tried to feel compassion for what he is going trough and keep a calm environment like if he was having PMS .. he is a little better now.. It's very hard sometimes because ghosts of past and memories of what he had done visit me frequently and I feel anxious and needy. I really don't know what to do with them, I don't want to pressure him but I can't ignore them either.. And I have anticipatory anxiety for "relapse" I know there is a great chance for that happening and that is something he has to deal with himself, but I really don't know how to react if it happens. does any one has any suggestions??